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10 Most Common Body Language Mistakes | Communication skills for success

Filed under: Communication Skills,Interpersonal,Public Relations — Tags: , — admin @ 8:01 pm January 25, 2011

conflict Ed Yourdon 150x150 10 Most Common Body Language MistakesIf you are like most people, you aren’t all that aware of your body language and the unintentional signals we send. We are pretty good at noticing it others, but in ourselves, not so much. Consequently, we can make some pretty common mistakes that can give off the wrong signal.

Why does it matter? Because your body language says a lot about you. It makes up over 50% of your communication message! Wow. Good body language can make a huge difference in the connection you make when you communicate. On the other side, body language mistakes can create some major disconnects. Maybe even some unexpected conflict.

To connect and communicate successfully we need to eliminate some of our body language mistakes. So, pay attention to what you are doing and if you are doing any of the following, well, just stop it!

1. Looking down: This usually indicates disinterest. Sometimes it’s even interpreted as a casual sign of arrogance. Always look up and make eye contact when you are communicating with someone.  

2. Closed body posture: When you put your hands on your hips, it can be interpreted as a sign of superiority, arrogance, or defensiveness. Crossing your arms can show anger or superiority. For best results, try to keep your arms open and at your sides.

3. Standing too close: This makes most people feel uncomfortable. We generally consider the four square feet of space immediately surrounding our bodies our personal space, or bubble. Cross into this invisible bubble only with those that give you permission to do so – good friends and family.

4. Uneven eye contact. When you are sitting down looking at someone standing up, there is a sense of power to the person standing. It can become a major disconnect. Keep your self at eye level if at all possible. If someone comes into your space standing while you are sitting, stand up.

5. Sitting on the edge of your chair: This is an indication that you are uncomfortable. It can make others around you uncomfortable as well.